LIMA — Anna is finally starting to be able to pick up the pieces following a five-year abusive relationship, but it has not been an easy process.
The relationship came to a head with a physical altercation earlier this year resulting in a charge against Anna, which she said came as a result of her defending herself.
“We decided we were going to have a few drinks together to — I don’t want to say mend the relationship because we had been through that roller coaster so many times — but just kind of kick back and enjoy each others company,” Anna said. “He began to get upset and at that time, I was like ‘I’m done’ and I started packing my bags … that set him off that night.”
Anna said her live-in boyfriend began dragging her around the house by her hair, punching her in the face and choking her in and out of consciousness. Sustaining an injury from Anna’s fight back, the boyfriend went to authorities. Anna was then charged and, as a result, ended up losing her job.
“I don’t know what inside of me said not to say anything, don’t tell (the police) what he had done to me,” Anna said. “There had been prior incidents of police responding to our apartment, so I think the officer knew. I think what they wanted was for me to come out and say it, but at that time, I was not mentally ready to say it.”
The judge ended up foregoing any additional jail time in the hearing and placed Anna on probation with a significantly reduced bail, meaning Anna could get back home with her 6-year-old daughter, Elsa.
Now with a charge on her record, Anna had a hard time finding a new job she could even apply to. Luckily, with the help of her probation officer, she has been in a new position for a few weeks now. However, going from a managerial position to this entry-level job has been a tough adjustment for Anna and her daughter.
“The hardest part right now as far as Christmas is that I did have to take that pay cut,” Anna explained. “I’m obviously progressing, but it’s like the wheels just move so slowly.”
Once fully back on her feet financially, Anna wants to go back to finish her final year of college to earn a degree in forensic anthropology. She had dropped out upon becoming pregnant with Elsa.
Until then Anna and her daughter could use help with household items, including queen sized sheets, towels, pillows and cookware, as well as clothing. Anna wears a size 4x in shirts and 22 in pants and wears a size 9 1/2 in women’s shoes. Elsa is a quickly-growing 6-year-old who wears a kid’s size 14 and size 5 in kid’s shoes.
On Elsa’s Christmas wish list is anything to do with the L.O.L. Surprise! dolls. She specifically has her eye on the doll bus and house but would love some more dolls as well.
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