One of the most important qualities I am attempting to instill in my babies is love. It’s such a powerful gift to give yet reveals the most vulnerability. I proclaim my love for them daily — many times a day. And especially make it known when they make a kid-like mistake, because there is nothing in this world that they could do that would ever lessen my love for them.
While they get to experience the love of a mom and dad daily, as well as the love between a husband and a wife, we recently attended a wedding that was different than what they are used to experiencing. You see, bride (and mama) No. 1 was Mommy’s best friend for almost 20 years. And bride (and mama) No. 2 was the lucky lady that landed her.
Yeah, you read that right. And, maybe, I just lost some loyal readers. Or, maybe, I actually wrote this especially for you.
I mean, how could I subject my children to such, to such, well, to such love.
As we were preparing to attend this ceremony, I was questioned about how the girls would take it — you know, two brides and all. It went a little something like this.
“Mommy, what are we doing this weekend?”
“We are going to Kami and Janel’s wedding!”
“Wait, two girls can get married?”
“Oh, I didn’t know that. Can I have some more milk?”
And that was that.
Brutal, right? Scarred them for life? Or maybe, I just opened their eyes to differences in people so they can spread just a little bit more love.
And maybe you don’t agree with it. Maybe you actually hate that the world has come to allow same-sex marriages. But, in my opinion, hate is something we need a whole lot less of in this world.
And maybe your God does not allow this. But God, He is a good Father who told me “judge not, that ye be not judged.” Matthew 7:1
Maybe you do not agree with certain people’s choices and lifestyle, but does that make those people unlovable? I’m not sure I know of a time when Jesus said to only love some people. In fact, He is the greatest example to follow when it comes to loving all.
Maybe it looks like I am enabling or encouraging this lifestyle for my girls. As I said before, there is nothing in this world that these babies could ever do that would ever make me love them any less. However, I realize that this lifestyle is not easy. There are a whole lot of obstacles in front of my best friend and her wife. But they take them on with grace and strength because, well, they love each other that much.
Listen, I never actually planned to teach my babies about love in all forms at such a young age, but I am certainly glad I have. Sure, they are curious. A lot of it is outside their normal that they experience daily. But, a child is not born with hatred in their heart, they are taught it, and I am doing everything that I can to teach them love instead.
One day, while we were visiting Kami and Janel and they were feeding their sweet, adorable twins, Zoey and Avery, my Maylie — who has not known a day of her life without her father — questioned why the girls didn’t have a daddy.
I’ll admit, I was quite unprepared for the question. I mean I was fine with showing my girls that people do not have to be just like us to be loved, but I didn’t formulate responses to possible questions. I deferred to Janel on this one.
She simply said, “Some babies have a mommy and a daddy, some babies have two daddies, and some babies have two mommies.”
To which Maylie replied, “oh, ok,” and took another bite of her macaroni and cheese.
It was that simple. It IS that simple. It is not rocket science — it is just love — and accepting people for who they are. It is not judging based on color of the skin, religion, disability, age or sexual preference. It is simply loving those around us who deserve to be loved.
And I choose love. Over and over again, I choose love. Because God knows that this world needs more love.
And maybe, because I have “exposed” my babies to all forms of love and shown them how to love without judgment, they too will choose love over hatred throughout all aspects of their lives.
And that, in my opinion, is an ultimate mom win.
Congrats, Kami and Janel! We love you!
Sarah (Pitson) Shrader was born and raised in Lima. She is a Lima Central Catholic and Tiffin University graduate. Sarah is a full-time working mama who enjoys writing about her somewhat crazy, always adventurous life as a mother. She lives in Bath Township with her husband, Paul, and their daughters, her writing inspirations, Maylie and Reagan.