LIMA — Emily Wrencher, executive director of Crossroads Crisis Center, a battered women’s shelter in Lima, said domestic violence is an under-reported crime that can escalate to the level of violence like the Thursday shootings.
A domestic dispute turned deadly Thursday morning, when Randy Glenn, 45, shot and killed his estranged wife and his 20-year-old daughter Andrea Glenn, bringing the issue of domestic violence to light in the Lima community.
“No one wants to be abused verbally, emotionally, psychologically, sexually, financially, physically, up to the level of murdered,” Wrencher said. “No person can take the responsibility and ownership of another person’s choice of behaviors. I believe that a more appropriate question we should ask ourselves is what can the community do better?”
Marilyn Cipollone, director of Samaritan House, another shelter for women and children who are being abused, said victims return to their abusers often because they’re brainwashed into thinking they can’t manage their own affairs.
“It’s very frustrating to see a lot of women who repeatedly go back to their abusers,” Cipollone said, “and for us to watch them and realize if they want to go back to them, they will.”
Family violence is also a huge issue. An abuser often threatens other family members, like in the case of the Glenn’s daughter, Andrea. Andrea Glenn reported her father in February 2010 for domestic violence. The complaint said he caused or attempted to cause Andrea Glenn “physical harm.”
“If one family member is being abused, all family members are being abused,” Wrencher said. “Perhaps not all physically, but most certainly emotionally or psychologically. Research suggests that in 70 percent of homes where one partner is abusing the other, the children are also being abused.”
Cipollone said she often sees situations where the person being abused tries to leave but it ends badly.
“I see that all the time when a woman feels strong enough to leave and the abuser wants to act out in violence,” Cipollone said.
Wrencher said 48 percent of all domestic violence cases go unreported.
“In 2011, we provided safe emergency shelter to 61 women and 90 children for 1,900 shelter days, assisted 212 women at the Lima Municipal Court, which represented 258 children, assisted 612 non-residential women, which represented 675 children, and answered 3,680 crisis calls on our 24-hour crisis hotline,” she said.
Both women said the signs of someone who is being abused are things like unexplained bruises and low self esteem.
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