Thirteen is never a lucky number, and I must admit watching the ball drop in New Yorkís Time Square last week made me shudder at what this Ď13 might hold.
Normally not a pessimist, I couldnít shake my gloominess as I contemplated the year ahead.
Perhaps it was the snow, or the cold, or the fact that gas prices went up literally as I was filling my tank, but whatever brought my mood, it was real and it was ugly.
Great way to start a new year, I thought to myself.
I tried to jump-start my good mood by eating my once-a-year shrimp cocktail. I got sick to my stomach, and my bad mood remained.
The promise of a good book did nothing for me. After a quick read, my eyes burned and those previously-eaten shrimp were swimming. Again.
I tried to find a funny movie to lighten my spirits. I asked my husband to rent something to make me laugh. He rented ďFinding a Friend for the End of the World.Ē Seriously.
My mood, and my hopes for a good Ď13, were plunging over the cliff faster than the economy.
I considered making resolutions but got nowhere.
Find a new hobby.
Yadda, yadda, yadda. Nothing jumped out at me.
Then as I was getting dressed one morning, I heard a young entertainer on television saying that he wanted to live the dream in 2013.
Dorky for sure, but it resonated with me. I want to live the dream too. And something tells me Iím not alone in that quest.
Regardless of our ages, we all have dreams. Sometimes we just need to figure out, or remember, what our dreams might be.
Whether itís a new job, or a baby, a retirement, meeting someone new, or being a happier person, we all have visions of how we want our lives to be. We all hold out hope that our desires and our actual lives will collide at some point, and our dreams will come true.
So what does it take to make that happen?
If youíre like me, it might mean not getting bogged down in the minutiae of day to day. Keep my eyes on the prize (I love those rhyming sayings) and not looking down.
Remember when the gas price rises as Iím filling my tank that Iím on my way to see a friend. And that is always something nice.
Remember when my husband rents a bad movie that we all make mistakes, and itís great to share a laugh with the love of your life.
Take my dog on more walks, regardless of the weather. I can bundle up, and she is always wearing a fur coat to handle anything Mother Nature can send our way. (I snagged a pair of new boots for Christmas, so I should also be able to handle anything, although Iím hoping for no more snow.)
Stop fearing failure. Some of my greatest moments have come on the heels of some of my greatest failures. I need to remember that more often. Especially when I fall flat on my face.
Train myself to hang on the kind words someone tells me rather than their criticisms.
Keep in mind that good deeds come back to you. Every time.
Try to say yes more often than no.
Surround myself with people I enjoy, and find something to enjoy in every person I meet.
I think the dream I share with most people is to be happy. In whatever circumstance might come our way, we all want to be happy.
So whatever your dream this year, I hope you can keep it in mind as you go through the day-to-day highs and lows that we all experience. I hope that even on the bad days, we donít lose sight of our dreams.
And I hope you can be a happy person as you seek to follow your dream. I hope the same for me.
And Iím going to make ďliving the dream in 2013Ē my mantra for the new year.